The Ultimate Anal Sex Reference Guide

by Hannah Lovegrove

on Jun 21, 2022

Butt loving can be fun for everyone. So if you’re keen to explore your nipsy or up your anal game, check out our anal sex guide for the lowdown on everything to do with your tushy.

Not quite sure how to hit those pleasure spots up your patootie? Or maybe you’ve already made it to the stage door and are after some tips for great anal sex. Whether you’re just embarking on your anal journey or have made it to fifth base before, there’s always room for improvement. So check out our ultimate anal sex guide to help conquer anal action.

One of the wonderful things about butt stuff is that absolutely everyone can enjoy it. No matter your bits or your sexual orientation, if you’ve got a clacker you can indulge in anal pleasure. We’ve got you covered with anything and everything to do with anal - from getting prepped and warming up to communication and anal aftercare. Keep reading for all things anal related.

Why It’s Enjoyable

For many people, the nipsy remains a bit of a mystery, but it doesn’t have to stay that way. Anal can be enjoyable for pretty much anyone with a posterior so long as you take your time and do it right.

Your keister is jam packed with sensitive nerve endings that are best stimulated with a bit of anal play. Whether that involves tickling your tushy with a feather tickler or exploring the back passage with some deep diving courtesy of an anal sex toy, there’s plenty of ways to stimulate your behind. It’s just up to you to figure out what brings you the most pleasure.

Before You Begin

Before you get down to that booty business, there’s a few things you can do to prepare yourself for great anal sex...

Chat to your partner

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If you’re keen to get your kinky companion involved in your exploration of bum fun, then it’s a good idea to have a quick chat to make sure they’re a-ok with being involved.

If you’re struggling to put your thoughts into words, check out our guide to introducing anal toys to your relationship.

Often the anxiety leading up to the chat is worse than the conversation itself. And who knows, your flame might be just as into the thought of deep diving as you are and have a few good ideas themselves! You’ll never know if you don’t ask, so lay it all out on the table for your boo to decide.

Getting clean


If there’s one thing that puts people off trying anal, it’s the fear of making a mess... Fair call. Your booty was made for more than just anal pleasure and these things can get a bit messy from time to time. While some people think the jacksie should remain a one-way street, these poor folk will never know the exceptional pleasure that awaits at door #2.

If you want to keep things nice and clean and put your mind at ease, you might want to prep yourself with a quick anal douche before you get down and dirty. Not quite sure where to start with an anal douche or confused about the difference between a douche and an enema? Not to worry, you can read up on how to use an anal douche with our handy guide.

Pick your lube of choice


Another thing to note about your nipsy is that, unlike other areas of the bod, like the Mappa Tassie, the anoos isn’t self-lubricating, so you’ll need to double down on the slippery stuff when indulging in spelunking.

Not only will you want to make sure you get a good quality anal lube, you’ll want to choose a lube that’s compatible with the anal sex toys you’re using. Lucky for you, we’ve got a nifty guide on the best anal lubes to help you find the right gear for the job. In a nutshell though, water-based lube can be used with any sex toy materials but you’ll want to be careful where you put oil or silicone lubes.

Getting down to business

Great anal sex isn’t just about putting a todger up your tush… But it absolutely can be if that’s what gets you hot under the collar. One of the beautiful things about bumfunnery is that there are so many fun and insanely pleasurable things you can do with your badonkadonk. From analingus to anal masturbation and anal sex to pegging, you won’t be short on ideas on how to pleasure your peachy cheeks.



Whether you know it as analingus or rimming, it’s basically the backdoor equivalent of giving head. Rimming can be a great introduction to anal play. You can incorporate it into your foreplay or as a delightful accompaniment to oral. Check out our beginner’s guide to rimming for everything you need to know about going down on your truelove’s asspussy.

Anal masturbation

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Another bloody good way to enjoy anal is to masturbate. We’re not talking about flicking the bean or cranking the shank - we’re talking about stimulating your rump to get you off. While most people are familiar with rubbing one out, you might be scratching your head wondering how anal masturbation works. We’ve put together a few tips to help you nail anal private browsing.

Anal sex


Now for the moment you’ve all been waiting for - how to have anal sex. Becoming a backdoor (wo)man can be an absolutely sensational experience, but it sure helps to know what you’re doing. If it’s your first time, you might want to check out our piece on how to have anal sex. Whether you choose to go it alone or have some fun with your playmate, you’ll be sure to have an absolute blast at the stage door.



Last but certainly not least is pegging. If you’re not familiar, pegging is essentially when a woman or person with a vagina uses a strap-on to anally penetrate a man or penis owner. You guessed it, we’ve got another sphinctacular guide on pegging that covers all the basics.

Anal sex toys

Hopefully by this stage you’ve got a few ideas on how you’d like to do the anal deed. Now it’s time for a quick introduction to all of the wonderful anal sex toys you can add to your collection.

One of the most important things to remember when buying a booty toy is to make sure you get something with a flared base. Your exit hole has a habit of sucking things up and once they’re up they’re mighty hard to get back down without a trip to the emergency room. So to avoid any unfortunate accidents, a flared base helps to keep everything in place and can put your mind at ease.

Butt Plugs


To kick things off, let’s start with the trusty butt plug. You can use a butt plug for a bit of extra stimulation during foreplay, masturbation - hell, you can even use it for double penetration if you’ve got a vajango. Anal plugs are ideal for creating that feeling of fullness and for prepping your freckle for anal sex. From beginner’s butt plugs to supersized plugs and everything in between, there’s sure to be a butt plug out there that’ll tickle your tush.

Anal Beads


If you’re keen to try a toy with a few more sensations, then why not check out anal beads? The fun with anal beads lies with their insertion - and even more so their removal while you’re doing the deed.

Anal Vibrators


Up the ante with some good vibrations courtesy of an anal vibrator. Just like butt plugs, anal vibes come in a range of different shapes and sizes to suit booty beginners through to anal aficionados. The buzzing sensations from an anal vibrator can also help you to relax your rump, making for a more enjoyable anal experience. If you’re not sure where to start, you might want to read our beginner’s guide to anal vibrators.

Prostate Massagers


One thing people with penises have over vulva owners when it comes to patootie play is the prostate or P-spot. If you’re not quite sure how to stimulate the P-spot, a prostate massager can help to hit that hidden walnut. Although prostate massagers are specifically designed for penis owners, everyone can use and enjoy a prostate massager. Get the inside scoop with our beginner’s guide to prostate massagers.



Discover anal pleasure with a nifty strap-on. Whether you’re planning on pegging or anally penetrating your partner, you suffer from erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation or you’re keen to explore double penetration, strap-ons are incredibly versatile toys. You can check out some of our fave strap-ons here.

How to enjoy anal

Now that we’ve covered the basics of anal sex, let’s chat how to enjoy it. Here’s a few tips to help you get the most out of your next trip to fifth base.

Relax. When it comes to having great anal sex our top tip, and we can’t stress this enough, is to RELAX. Your sphincter is a surprisingly strong muscle, so if you’re tensing your tush when trying to insert something up there it’s going to be near impossible, not to mention extremely uncomfortable.

Start small. Whether you’re starting off with your digits, a dildo or a dedicated butt plug, start with something modest before progressing your play to a more sizable toy. Lovehoney has a whole stack of beginner’s anal toys to help you on your buttlovin’ journey and a beginner’s guide to help you navigate all your choices.

Stay clean. If you’ve used an anal douche but you’re still worried you’re going to make a mess during your anal exploration, then it can be worth having a pack of wipes next to your bed, like the Lovehoney Fresh Biodegradable Sex Toy & Body Wipes. Accidents happen, but it comes with the territory of tapping that tush and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Keep it hygienic. If you’re using an anal sex toy, then it’s important to remember to give it a good clean before and especially after use. Grab a dedicated toy cleaner or if you don’t have one on hand, warm soapy water should do the trick. Once your toy is clean and completely dry, you’ll want to store it in a storage pouch or box until you go rump ranging again.

No swapsies. Lastly, don’t be tempted to swap a shaft, dildo or other anal sex toy form the balloon knot to the cooch without a good wash in between. No matter how thoroughly you clean your behind, there’s still likely to be a few bacteria floating around that can wreak havoc on your tuppence and lead to an infection.

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Written by Hannah Lovegrove.

Originally published on Jun 21, 2022. Updated on Jun 22, 2022