How To Use An Anal Douche

How to Use an Anal Douche

Written by Emma Maidens, 3rd March 2023

Preparing for anal play? Luck you. While douching isn’t necessary before engaging in anal play, you may prefer the security of knowing that you’re all clear in the rear before your partner heads there.


Why do people Douche?

Douching isn’t for everyone, but the best way to find out if you’d like to make it a part of your anal routine is to try.

Anal play involves something entering your anus, whether with toys or body parts. Understandably, you may have some concerns about something going into a place that’s usually reserved for exiting only.

The thought of faeces as a by-product can be enough to throw people off attempting anal play to begin with. While we guarantee that if your partner’s keen to enter your backdoor they’ll be okay with the prospect of a little mess, it’s normal to be concerned or anxious.

Other than throwing a towel down, many anal-play pros (and beginners) will use a douche beforehand.

What are Douches used for?

An anal douche involves using one of the many types of douches to flush out your rectum with water or a specific douche solution. The douche is used until all exiting water runs clear, confirming you’re now all clear in the rear.

In saying this, your rectum is another one of the bodies well designed systems. Generally, any stool is held far up from your anus until your body is ready for a bowel movement.

If you’re not expecting one anytime soon, a shower and quick clean or check of your anus with your finger can be enough to tell you if you’re poo ready to go. If not, or for added peace of mind, you may wish to douche.

Types of Anal Douches

What is a douche? There are a few different types of douches to try, so it’s worth thinking about which type you have the facilities for, and which will be the least intimidating for you to begin with.



A bulb anal douche consists of two main components. The bulb itself is made from a squeezable material, like rubber, to allow for the sucking in and expelling of water with ease.

Attached to the bulb is the nozzle. These are usually narrow and contoured for comfortable insertion.

When purchasing a bulb douche, you’ll want to look out for the capacity of the bulb, as different ones will hold varying amounts of liquid. If you prefer a smaller size for travel or easy storage, keep in mind you may need to refill the bulb while douching.

The size and material of the nozzle will also impact your decision. Take note of the thickness and steer clear of wider nozzles if you’re a beginner. There are also firm and flexible types, so pick one you feel comfortable with.

Shower Enema


A shower enema is a slightly more high-tech gadget for those serious about anal play.

Designed to connect directly to your shower pipe, these enema’s can be installed permanently or temporarily when you need it.

There are a few precautions to take when using a shower enema. Correct installation is important, and while you won’t need a plumber, be sure to follow the instructions carefully to avoid a disastrous water bill.

Secondly, as the water is coming directly from your shower pipe, you’ll want to pay special attention to the temperature and force at which it’s set. We know we don’t need to tell you it’s a delicate area, but still - it’s a delicate area, people!

Test the heat and water pressure that’s coming from the enema nozzle before inserting it, and make sure not to bump the shower taps while you’re using it. The only thing that should be hot about douching is the visions of what’s to come.

Shower enemas aren’t overly discreet, so if you share a bathroom and can’t commit to cleaning it and packing up straight after use, a different option may be best for you.



Not as scary as they sound, douches in syringe form are a convenient and simple way to pre-cleanse. Rest assured, there’s no sharp needle, just a long, narrow nozzle - perfect for beginners.

The purpose of these syringe-shaped cleansing systems is to get liquids into tight places, so for this reason they’re also popular for lube application before anal play.

The vials are smaller, so they have a reduced capacity for how much liquid they can hold, but if you’re just after a quick and easy freshen up you’re in luck.

Plus, if you have a sweet spot for medical role play, syringe enemas will really set the mood. The doctor will see you now...

How to use a Douche

The key to how to douche well is to follow instructions and listen to your body.

While how to use your douche will differ slightly depending on which douche product you choose to invest in, the general principles on how to douche effectively and safely remain the same.

1. Prepare

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You’ll want to start with a clean nozzle. Of course, you should always clean your toys after use, but when using products specifically for your anal area more cleaning is always better than less due to the increased bacteria.

Fill your enema with the water or solution. If you’re using water, you’ll want to use clean water that sits just under lukewarm. This is important as if you’re water is too hot you risk burning the mucus membrane inside your rectum.

If you’re using an enema solution, do your research and ensure it’s medically safe and not just a new fad. If you’re required to mix the solution yourself, follow the instructions carefully to avoid any discomfort during or after your douche.

2. Lube, Lube, Lube

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Unlike vaginas, your anus doesn’t produce its own lubrication. Avoid water-based lubes as these will only be washed away by water or douche solutions.

Instead, opt for a silicone based or anal-specific lubricant to smooth out the process. Apply to the nozzle of your chosen enema before insertion, and we guarantee you’ll have a much more enjoyable time.

Don’t force the nozzle inside you immediately, listen to your body and move slowly

3. Process

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Pick where you’d like to douche and choose somewhere that allows for easy clean up. During anal douching the contents of the douche and your rectum will need to go somewhere once they exit, so generally the shower, bath or over a toilet are preferred locations.

The shower tends to be the go-to choice for beginners and pros alike as it’s easy to clean and freshen up once you’re finished.

Your nozzle should already be lubed up and ready to go, but you may also like to apply some lube to your finger.

Inserting a well-lubricated finger into your anus first helps relax the rectal muscles and prepare for what’s to come.

If you have a shower chair, bath edge or toilet close by, propping one leg up can help make insertion easier. Just be careful not to do anything that makes you feel unbalanced.

Breathe slowly and gently insert the nozzle into your anus. Don’t force it further than you feel comfortable with when you’re starting out.

Once in place, squeeze the douche bulb, bottle, bag or syringe to push the contents inside you. If you’re using a shower enema, begin on a slow and steady setting to get used to the sensation.

The goal is to have clean water exiting you, so if you’re using a smaller capacity bulb or syringe, you may need to refill the liquid in the douche before this happens.


4. Aftercare

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Give yourself a shower to rinse off and ensure you’re feel as fresh as possible before you get hot and sweaty all over again.

Make sure to use an antibacterial soap to wash your hands and remember, it can take some time for all the liquid to exit your anus, so whether you wait or dive into anal play immediately is your personal choice.

If you’re waiting, throw on some old underwear until you’re satisfied the liquid has drained out.

5. Cleaning


Banish any bacteria by thoroughly cleaning your anal douche after use. Don’t just clean the nozzle, but all components of your douche you may have touched during the process.

Invest in a quality sex toy cleaner and run water through all attachments, while ensuring your anal douche is completely dry before packing it away.

Don’t forget to clean the shower or bath too to remove any remaining bacteria and douche contents.


If you have any sensitivities around the anal area, like haemorrhoids, anal douching may not be the right choice for you. We recommend consulting a health care professional prior to douching if you have any concerns, or if you experience pain during the douche process.

Listen to your body. Even if you don’t have any pre-existing conditions concerning your anus, it still may not be the right choice for you.

Stop immediately if you notice bleeding or pain while douching.

End result

Sex isn’t supposed to be a perfect, clean, accident-free act. We’re all human and that’s what makes it so fun.

If douching is for you, great! If it isn’t, also great. The biggest benefit most douche users find is the peace of mind before engaging in anal play.

Your mindset is a huge factor when it comes to having satisfying sex, so if you feel more confident and relaxed post-douche than if you go without, anal play will likely be more enjoyable.

Trying new things (if you’re comfortable) is a steppingstone to a better sex life. Whatever you choose, the right partners will understand.

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