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Here at Lovehoney, we talk about foreplay A LOT (and for a good reason too!).

Much more than just some sexual appetiser that you quickly wolf down before the main course, foreplay is a crucial part of experiencing great sex.

Foreplay gives both your body and mind a chance to become fully aroused. This mounting anticipation means that when it's time for the main event, you'll be champing at the bit!

We hear about general foreplay tips all the time, but we ask you, dear reader – where's all the helpful advice on incredible anal foreplay?

Although it is literally located in the rear, when it comes to foreplay tips, the bum is sometimes being left behind. Well, we won't stand for it, so here are eight of the best anal foreplay tips. Bottoms up!

Generally, foreplay is known as ‘sexual activity during the lead up to sex’ or ‘things that get you in the mood’.

But what is sex and why doesn’t it include the lead up?

When does foreplay end and sex begin?

Foreplay can mean lots of different things to different people, so I’ll be covering what falls into the ‘generic foreplay’ category, how creating different categories of sexual acts can be damaging, my own definition of foreplay and when I think it should happen (hint – it’s not always before!).

Often, when the term 'foreplay' gets thrown around, it's sold as ‘something that comes before "actual" sex’ (i.e. a penis penetrating a vagina – thanks heteronormative school sex-ed). So for a long time, I assumed it to be kissing, cuddling and hands/mouth on genitals.

I know this experience isn't uncommon, and I know that to a lot of people, that's what foreplay is.

A recent medical study in the US has changed the direction of intimate pleasure for women, demonstrating that super-strength orgasms may be available in real life, not just the movies.

Conducted by neuroscientist Dr Nicole Prause, founder of sexual biotechnology firm Liberos, the purpose of the scientific study was to test the effectiveness of the updated happy rabbit® versus manual stimulation.

19 women to date, with an average age of 31 and a wide range of racial and age diversity, have been tested. Each of the women visited the lab twice under strict lab conditions – once to use a happy rabbit® vibrator, and the other to masturbate using their hands.

And what did Dr Prause discover?...

Have you ever thought about writing your own erotic stories? Or maybe memoirs? Then you're not alone.

Lots of people feel awkward about sharing their writing – understandably so, if you've ever read a comment section anywhere on the internet.

It's scary to put yourself out there. But it can also be a huge turn-on, and ultimately rewarding.

Even if your audience is just yourself and a lover, erotic writing is a great way to explore fantasies. Writing can relieve stress, and when you're doing it for fun, it can be a welcome break from academic assignments.

If you've ever thought about putting pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard as it's now more often known (though it does sound slightly less romantic), here are some small steps to get you started.

The BDSM community are a group who practise Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism.

If you’re interested in aspects of BDSM and you’re ready to further explore your sexuality – that’s great!

If you have a partner or partners who want to go on this journey with you, then there are exciting times ahead. However, it can be hard to know where to start if you’re single.

Here’s some advice for those of you who are sexy, single and ready to discover the world of BDSM.