4 Sexy Things To Try Before You Graduate
on Nov 23, 2018
I love trying new things sexually. Love it.
There’s no denying the thrill of a first time in any sexual activity, from your first kiss, to your first taste of oral, and beyond.
There is nothing wrong with a bit of experimentation, be it a tweak on something you already do, or a big step if you are the more adventurous type.
Since I have dabbled in various experiences sexually - some just once, some which have become a favorite of mine - I thought I’d share with you the four things I view as being fun and accessible for all experiences.
Uni is the perfect time to experiment and find out even more about what you enjoy in (and out) of the bedroom, so make the most of this period of excitement and freedom!
Hopefully you’ll be brave enough to give one of them a go, no matter your relationship status.
1. Watched Yourself In a Mirror
I understand how the idea of watching yourself can be intimidating. As someone who is nowhere near close to being happy with the way she looks and how her body is, I totally identify with self-image worries.
Surprisingly, despite these insecurities, I think watching yourself enjoy pleasure is incredibly erotic. Even though generally I am a bit insecure, I actually find seeing myself in that state brings my confidence up! I don't know why, since it seems like a bit of a contradiction.
If you're single, or only masturbate, you can watch yourself alone. It's also probably easier to do this first before engaging with a partner, to ensure you feel comfortable and at what level this comfort is at. For example, you might only feel comfortable at first seeing certain parts of your body. In that case, get a smaller mirror and place it nearby so it reflects on the area you feel most proud of.
Over time, perhaps focus on other areas, or use a bigger mirror. This activity is so much more than a sexual one, as it is one that will hopefully build confidence and self-esteem for your body in general if you have insecurities, as it did for me.
2. Fun Outside The Bedroom
I find doing things in different locations a huge turn-on personally. I can't quite put my finger on why – I think it is to do with the sense of "conquering" somewhere and being able to have the memories to smile at if you pass by that place again.
Be it a handsy encounter behind that large bush outside in the dark of night, or walking around campus with a hands-free toy concealed under your clothes, that little bit of extra thrill is fun to experience, even if just for one time.
I understand that it can be a little daunting at first, but the key is to find a situation where the thrill is there, but no real risk is actually present, only the thought of it. For example, try engaging in manual fun (whilst staying fully clothed) somewhere with no one around in the dark.
Obviously, stay safe and legal in regards to this, don't be breaching any nudity laws and don't ever subject anyone to seeing anything they shouldn't and don't want to.
3. Anal Play
This is a subject that elicits many different reactions. Some people engage in anal play rather early in their sex life, whereas others don't discover it until much later in life (if at all).
Some love it, some just love the idea of it, some are horrified. Whatever your personal opinion of it, I urge you to at least consider it.
Any form of anal play, such as anal sex with a partner, or personal experimentation with toys, can add a whole new dimension to your sex life, not to mention open up even more options of potential sensations and pleasure.
A further beautiful thing about anal play is that anyone can engage in it, no matter your gender, sexuality or relationship status, thus making it accessible to all. If you try it and it isn't your thing, that's fine! Just remember, a willingness to be open to new types of pleasure will make it much more likely that you will enjoy those new encounters.
4. Making Love
OK, I'll admit this sounds strange, but let me explain. Sex does not necessarily equate to "making love". Sex can take on a variety of forms, all equally valid, so long as the parties involved are enjoying themselves.
It can be romantic, passionate, fast, furious, frantic, lazy - whatever you want it to be. I enjoy sex in most of its varieties, usually the fast and passionate type personally, but a form I feel gets not enough credit nowadays is of the "making love" type.
Seen as soppy or boring by some, it can in fact be incredibly fulfilling to invest yourself in the sexual experience in a way where every action you make is a way to show love and care without words. Slowed down and thorough. No rush. Letting the emotion, intimacy and arousal build up through touch and eye contact… Maybe you do this every time, or maybe you've never truly done it, but I promise you it is something to experience and treasure at least once.
Blogger supercutesecret is an established sex and relationships blogger, who studies Maths & Statistics at the University of Warwick.
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