How to Have Anal Sex

Discover all there is to know about how to have anal sex with top tips and guidance from Lovehoney's experts.

This first-time anal sex guide will talk you through anal experimentation and anal penetration, helping you to progressively experiment both alone, with a partner or with anal sex toys to achieve a satisfying anal sex life.

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Step 1: Get clean

It goes without saying that if you're sexually stimulating an area that's usually devoted to pooping, you will need to ensure that your anus is squeaky clean.

Have a relaxing bath beforehand and thoroughly clean the area.

Many butt sex beginners like to use an anal douche to guarantee complete and utter cleanliness, and it's something we highly recommend too.

If you're conscious about your lover seeing your anus in full for the first time, why not gently shave or wax the skin between your butt cheeks to make sure they're porn-flick worthy?

You'll be surprised how much more relaxed and confident this will make you.

Step 2: Use Lube

Don't even think about attempting any form of anal penetration without using some form of lubricant.

There's a raft of great lubes available for you to buy but the best ones are the thick, specially formulated anal lubricants.

Try Lovehoney Discover Water-Based Anal Lubricant - it's a thick lube designed to make anal sex comfortable and painless and is water-based, so it's compatible for use with condoms and sex toys.

If you have particularly sensitive skin, you may want to try Sliquid Sassy Glycerin-Free Anal Lubricant - it has less ingredients than more lubricants so there's less chance of irritation.

Step 3: Start small

If this is your first time trying anal sex, it makes sense to start off by using your lover's fingers or a beginner's butt plug.

Something like the BASICS Slimline Butt Plug is perfect.

Using a small toy prior to play warms up the area, familiarizes your anus with the feeling of penetration and helps to relax the muscles.

You lover should start by lubing up the plug or their finger and start off with the tip, then gently work their finger or plug in until it is submerged.

You should continue to do this with up to three fingers or by going from a smaller to a larger butt plug, but only if you're still feeling comfortable and pleasured.

Don't forget to use lube on each finger you insert.

If and when you're ready, you can move up to larger insertables, such as a dildo or a penis.

Just remember to take your time, and keep any thrusting slow, and gentle. You may decide you like it harder or faster later, but for now, keep things simple while you find what you like.

Step 4: Clean-up

After each time you've finished having anal sex, make sure that you thoroughly clean your anus and the toy or body part used to penetrate you.

A good wipe with Lovehoney Fresh Biodegradable Sex Toy & Body Wipes should leave you feeling fresh again, but a quick shower with your lover is even better.

If you used any toys, remember to give them a thorough clean with soap and water or a sex toy cleaner and store them separately once dry.

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