Even if we don’t like to admit it, lots of people still think of foreplay as the process leading up to the ‘main event’ of penetration – and the male orgasm. Foreplay is considered expendable, a luxury that can be enjoyed on a lazy Sunday afternoon but is often omitted during a weekday quickie.
Not only is this attitude towards foreplay old-fashioned, but it’s also overly heteronormative. There’s nothing wrong with a quickie, but I think it’s time that we acknowledge the importance of foreplay and stop considering it ‘lesser’ than penetrative sex.
As a big believer in the importance of foreplay, here are my 6 reasons why we should all be focusing less on the big O and more on the big F.
Whether you like to change it up in the bedroom by contorting your body into a myriad of different positions or you depend on a handful of tried-and-tested favorites, making a few simple changes can elevate any sex position.
It's no secret that sex is best when you and your partner are both comfortable and present - it's more difficult to orgasm when you're busy thinking about other things (washing, dinner, work - delete as applicable).
Start by switching your phone to silent and telling your partner exactly what position you'd like to explore with them - you'll find that by saying it out loud it will definitely get you both in the mood.
Here, we've rounded up a few ways to make your favorite sex positions even better!