Our Top Toys for Trans People
on Nov 16, 2021
Sex toys aren’t always specifically designed with gender non-conforming people in mind. With the majority of sex toys seemingly marketed for a cisgendered audience, it can be challenging to find one that works just as well if you’re non-binary or trans. We’ve rounded up some of our best gender-affirming toys so that everyone can enjoy what’s on offer.
Navigating sex, masturbation and pleasure can be tricky for anyone to do let alone someone who is transgender. What can be uncomfortable for some can be straight up traumatic for others but it doesn’t mean it’s not something everyone deserves and can work towards. At Lovehoney, we want everyone to feel sexual happiness in their lives - it’s why we do what we do.
Sex toys can be wonderful tools for pleasure regardless of who you are inside or out. The inclusivity and diversity we see growing in the industry is empowering; however we know we’ve got a long way to go in terms of products made for all kinds, and more specifically, trans people. That’s not to say there’s nothing to work with in this space.
We made this list to highlight the best toys and products for trans men and women, whether they are going through HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy), have had gender-affirming surgery or are experiencing gender dysphoria. It’s also worth mentioning, this list isn’t solely for this group and can be used as a guide for gender nonconforming (GNC) people as well.
Before we begin, a note on language. This blog will stick to anatomical terms for body parts in order to be as clear as possible, however we know the way people choose to identify themselves and their bodies is not so straight forward. There are many words we can use to talk about genitals but it is difficult to ensure they will be both affirming and accessible to everyone.
If the words clitoris, vulva, vagina, penis or testicles make you feel uncomfortable in any way, a browser extension can be added to this page to automatically swap out these words for something of your choice.
None of the language we’ve used on this page is gendered, however if you click through to a couple of the products, some of the descriptions used there do include minimal amounts. We’ve tried to include as much information as possible for you on this page so you don’t have to scroll down if you decide you’d like to purchase something.
Reinvented to reignite your sex life, this vibrating blow job stroker takes oral sex to incredible new levels. An open-ended textured tunnel gives intense sensations up and down the genitals, while the vibrating bullet will add that other-worldly wow-factor.
What customers say: "The overall feel of the sleeve is soft and welcoming. The texture is amazing and whilst using it the feel is sensual. The vibration feature however is something else stating. I love a toy that incorporates two great that in vibrations and something you can put your penis in."
While these kinds of sleeves were originally designed for cisgendered penis-owners, their compact nature makes them suitable for FTM (Female To Male) people as well. If someone has had bottom surgery, the phalloplasty penis may have different levels of sensation in different areas meaning you can manoeuvre a stroker like this one into the right position for you.
For those who are taking hormones which can make their clitoris grow, small, textured strokers (this one is 2.5 inches in length and 1 inch in diameter) can work well for stimulation on smaller sized genitals with or without the vibrations on. It also avoids hand contact which can help if dysphoria is an issue.
Crack open your little love egg to discover a glorious new level of orgasmic pleasure with a romantic twist. This innovative TENGA Egg combines an incredibly soft internal lining with heart patterned textures to deliver intense, orgasmic stimulation.
What customers say: "I was skeptical at first but decided to buy because of the price. I'm glad I did! This thing is fantastic and does the job wonderfully. Very easy to clean, portable, compact and easy to store. I also prefer this sort of bumpy texture so it really floats my boat. Try it, you won't regret it!"
Much-loved Japanese masturbation brand, TENGA does wonders in terms of creating toys which work amazingly well and are non-phallic in design. Like the other strokers we’ve mentioned here, this masturbator has a ridged texture and is elastic for enhanced sensations. It can envelop phalloplasty penises and smaller hormonally grown penises as it measures 2.5 inches in insertable length but has a small penetrative hole that can stretch up to 12 inches before bouncing back into shape. See the full TENGA range here for more.
They used to sing 'when the moon hits your eye, that's amore', but now there's a whole new sensual story. Sleek and classy, this lipstick-shaped bullet thrums with 11 thrilling functions and is perfect for discreet play, either solo or with a partner.
What customers say: "Get it! I love a slanted vibrator. It provides so much more stimulation than a pointed one. The precision is on point and I’m able to reach an orgasm so much quicker"
Arguably one of the most versatile and inclusive of sex toys, if you’ve got a working hand and arm, you’ll no doubt be able to find a way to get erotic from these little pocket rockets. During play, trail a bullet vibe all over your partner’s or your body, taking extra care and time around your external erogenous zones like your neck, lips and stomach. Beware of your nipples if you are going through hormone therapy as they can be quite sensitive.
A bullet vibe can also feel incredible against your genitals if you are comfortable using it there. Pinpoint vibrations mean you can explore what and where feels good to you regardless of where you are on your transgender journey.
Slimline and smooth with a non-intimidating 5 inches to play with. Its flared based ensures safe anal play, while its suction cup base opens up a whole wealth of hands-free play options.
What customers say: "Good size and texture easy to clean and feels good"
By using a non-realistic dildo, the expectations on what a penis “should” look like is completely removed, leaving the space to focus on the pleasure penetration can bring for the user. Featuring a suction cup base and a slim, 5 inch length, the Lovehoney Slimline Silicone Suction Cup Dildo is ideal for strap-on play, hands-free penetration and masturbation.
Introduce your body to penetration with this set of silicone dilators. Slowly increasing in diameter from 15mm to 35mm, they're a progressive way to ease your body into internal play and may help reduce discomfort during intercourse.
What customers say: "These feel overall less ‘cold and clinical’ to use, which isn’t just about the aesthetics for me - the shape and material feel much more comfortable and natural than the plastic ones, and seem to be more in tune with the muscles down there than unyielding plastic. After only a couple of uses, I’ve progressed further with this kit than I had with my old plastic set in years, and the results have been brilliant (i.e. least painful sex I’ve ever had). I can’t recommend this kit highly enough."
If you take a look at the reviews for this product, you’ll find heaps of people raving about how it has helped with vaginismus, tightness and pain during penetrative sex. Inspire’s dilator kit is also perfect for anyone who is recovering from vaginoplasty surgery and has to dilate their new vagina. These easy-to-use toys are silicone soft, tapered at the tip and come with a loop for gripping and trying different angles.
While we don’t recommend using these as a replacement for the dilators your doctor has given you post-surgery, they are a great addition to the recovery process thanks to their curved design, gradual growth and ultra-comfortable feel.
Slimline Penetrative Vibrators
Touch your most intimate places with Cici's super-soft, flexible vibrating head and explore a wealth of sensations both inside and out. With the perfect angle to target your hot spots, Cici thrums with 25 thrilling vibration combos
What customers say: "I have vaginismus and currently on dilator therapy. Eventually I’ve become more comfortable with penetration, and finally decided to get the Cici to explore internal stimulation - and it’s one of my favourite toys so far"
Internal vibrations can feel amazing when you are using the right toy for you. If vaginal insertion is something you or your partner are comfortable with, a thin, flexible vibe to start with is the way to go.
This Svakom vibe is super soft and doesn’t get girthier than 3 inches circumference which can make insertion much less intimidating. Try it out on your own to make sure you are feeling relaxed and confident before using with a partner if this is one of your first times experiencing a vibrator inside your vagina.
After something a bit more affordable? Here is another excellent slimline vibe made by Lovehoney.
Premium prostate massage is yours with the Mantric Remote Control Prostate Vibrator. A silken silicone shaft is curved to deliver intense P-spot orgasms while the flared, cushioned and textured base massages the perineum for added external stimulation.
What customers say: "Just buy it. Seriously stop reading reviews and buy it. It's intense, it's even more intense with a partner, just buy it at full price and come thank me"
The world is your oyster when it comes to anal play because everyone has got anus. With thousands of nerve endings in and around the anus, it can be just as arousing to stimulate that area and avoid your front genitals all together, especially if you or your partner are experiencing dysphoria.
Techniques like rimming and fingering can feel amazing for the receiver and toys can add an extra bit of oomph to the experience. Vibrating butt plugs and anal massagers can provide titillating stimulation to the inside and outside with some people reporting orgasms from them without ever touching their vulva or penis. This can also be achieved from toys like metal dildos which are super hygienic and create a satisfying feeling when inserted thanks to their weight.
Slip this buzzing beauty over your finger and give your hands a serious upgrade. Boasting smooth silicone, 20 thrilling vibe functions and curves for days, this petite vibe is a fantastic way to introduce yourself to your G-spot for the first time.
What customers say: "Works perfect and hitting the G-Spot for extra strong orgasm"
Small but powerful, finger vibrators are brilliant tools for pleasure if you experience little to no dysphoria as they are essentially an extension of the wearer’s finger. This means you can avoid skin-to-skin contact if you need to while still being connected to the activity, potentially growing your comfort levels with your body parts and their pleasure.
Sex toys and Underwear
Meet Moxie, a cheeky remote control clitoral vibrator with 10 rumbly yet discreet vibration modes. But that's not all – Moxie is equipped with a magnetic clip, allowing you to turn almost any pair of plain ol' pants into vibrating knickers.
What customers say: "Honestly some of the best $ I’ve ever spent and have no regrets. Used alone the toy is strong and gets the job done, with my partner the app control is amazing and fun. As others have said the app connectivity can be a bit temperamental but the novelty makes up for it. Would definitely recommend"
Some trans people who haven’t had gender-affirming surgery or who suffer from gender dysphoria might find it easier to be sexual while keeping their underwear on.
Running a strong vibe like a magic wand over the top of your partner’s or your underwear to stimulate the penis or vagina can feel great and lets you explore a range of sensations. Some vibrators are also made to be worn inside your underwear and are remote or app-controlled for complete hands-free pleasure. The Moxie features a magnetic clip which allows you to attach it to whatever pair you like - add a dollop of water-based lube to its head and pop them on for delicious vibes.
For those wanting to try strap-on play, Lovehoney has underwear which feature pockets for compatible toys to attach to. For transgender males, they are also a soft and secure way to pack in your day-to-day life as they look like normal underwear and hold your bulge in place.
Ooh, you flexy thing, you. Believe in miracles with this amazingly versatile wearable couple's vibrator. Free up your fingers by bending and curling its arms into any position, pushing its tip against your fave internal or external hotspot.
What customers say: "Really fun couple vibrator. Can use it in lots of different ways to ensure you never get bored. Vibrations are super powerful too"
Being able to bend your toy into different shapes is an awesome feature regardless of how you identify. Hands-free and wearable during sex and masturbation on pre or post penises and vaginas, the Lovehoney rechargeable couple’s vibrator can be used as a penis ring, clitoral or G-spot vibrator. It's a winner for trans folk as it can be whatever you and your body need it to be.
For more wearable pleasure during strap-on play, penis in vagina penetration and vagina to vagina sex, try the we-vibe chorus.
Using Womanizer's revolutionary Pleasure Air Technology, this sleek, ergonomic stimulator encircles your clitoris with a silicone head, offering 6 intensity levels to gradually build sensation. From a soft flutter to an intense pulse, the Pro40 sends you spiralling towards ecstasy with wave upon blissful wave.
What customers say: "This has more or less replaced everything else in my collection. I love the sensation of the air technology and the intensity of the climax it gives me. It's well made and easy to use. It is simple to adjust the strength of the vibrations to delay an orgasm (or to speed it up!). As always the packaging was discreet and delivery prompt!"
Everybody can reap the benefits of a suction toy on whatever body parts they have. As the name suggests, suction toys like this one have been designed for cis gendered females to use on their clitoris however, it can also feel incredible on your nipples, penis or even the anus. Test out the sucking head on all sensitive spots on your body to see what you can discover about yourself.