Sex Bootcamp with Tracey Cox | Part 1: How To Get In The Mood

by Tracey Cox

on May 3, 2016

Tracey Cox in the MoodWant to get in the right mood for a night of fun? This guide by international sex, body language and relationships expert, Tracey Cox, guarantees sexplosions aplenty!

You're both finally have some time alone now is the time to GET IN THE MOOD:

Mind-boggling, stupendously good sex doesn't start when you both get into bed. Set the scene way beforehand by doing any (or all!) of the following.

Have a 'naughty' box

Have a box in your bedroom where you put suggestions of slightly 'out there' things you'd both like to do (but may be too shy to say out loud).

Write down your suggestions, then fold the paper over so there's an element of surprise when you're in the mood to take a walk on the wild(er) side.

Click though to find out more about how to really set the mood…

Eat yourself sexy

Romantic dinners out are fabulous and a must-do but sex and heavy, rich food doesn't mix. So make your dinner reservation late and plan to have sex before you go to dinner.

Or allot 'love' and 'sex' nights and split the fun over two dates. One night you go out to dinner and whisper sweet nothings, the next you stay in and talk and play dirty.

Take turns to give a hot, sexy massage

No half measures either: I'm talking fluffy towels, beautifully fragrant massage oil, scented candles - the lot! Use some heated glass dildo's to roll across shoulders and thighs - and wherever else they seem to be drawn to…

Read my step-by-step guide to sexy massages.

Plan ahead

If you really don't have a clue what sexual treats to surprise a new partner with, you can't really go wrong with some sort of tie-up kit or bondage tape.

Other good present ideas that are a bit unusual but not too out there: orgasm gels and remote control sex toys (great for teasing and to add a fun element to sex).

Toy With Each Other

Now's the perfect time to start an adult toy box. Here's what to put in it:


Personal lubricant, condoms (not just for protection against STI's but if she has thrush or one of you has a UTI)


Vibrators, masturbation sleeves for him, remote control toys, paddles, whips, G-spot and anal stimulators

Get ups

Dress-up clothes for acting out fantasies.


Edible goodies (anything that can be licked, sucked or nibbled off), sexy card or board games, sex toys that are more fun than sexy.

Romance revivers

Candles, massage oils, aromatherapy oils for non-genital massage


Stockings and scarves, blindfolds, bondage kits, handcuffs, bed restraints

Getting in the Mood - The Essential Kit

  1. 1. Tracey Cox Supersex Massage Oil

    Tracey Cox Supersex Massage Oil 100ml

    Massages are the perfect precursor to sex because they simultaneously release tension and re-energize.

  2. 2. Tracey Cox Supersex Glass Dildo Set

    Tracey Cox Supersex Glass Dildo Set

    Stylish, smooth and super-strong: this glass dildo duo ticks all the boxes!

  1. 3. Tracey Cox Supersex Beginner's Bondage Tape

    Tracey Cox Supersex Beginner's Bondage Tape Double Pack

    Fancy trying some tie-up games but still a bit freaked out by the whole thing? Use tape and it's suddenly more fun than threatening.

  2. 4. Tracey Cox Supersex Orgasm Gel 100ml

    Tracey Cox Supersex Orgasm Gel 100ml

    Formulated to give your intimate pleasure a jolly good boost in the right direction, this climax gel really is a new essential.

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Written by Tracey Cox.

Originally published on May 3, 2016. Updated on Aug 6, 2020