Chastity is usually associated with abstinence, but chastity play isn't just about refraining from sex - a lot of couples experiment with chastity to enhance their sex life.

So, put aside any moral questions for now about chastity - ones that are associated with religious views. What you believe is up to you. Lovehoney is all about encouraging sexual happiness, and chastity play is all about that.

This guide is for the chastity-curious. Have a read to see if chastity play is right for you and to help you choose a chastity device that might make your fantasies come true.

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What is Chastity?

Have you heard the terms sissy chastity, chastity slave, chastity cuckold or chastity bondage?

In BDSM and bondage, chastity is a form of orgasm control. One of you wears a chastity device to stop you enjoying the Big O (for a while) - until your kinky companion removes it. So think of it as short-term chastity with a big pay-off.

Psychologically, chastity play can be really intimate, and many couples find that surrendering your ability to pop the big one - effectively being a chastity slave - gives you and your flame an erotic thrill that is unique.

Why do people do chastity play?

Most peeps try out chastity play as a sexual experiment. But for a smaller minority it is a chastity lifestyle choice.

There are a few who use chastity devices to stop compulsive sexual behaviour (hey, if your genitals are locked away, you can't use ‘em).

Chastity play is how most people start out - it's much more of a sexual game than a lifestyle choice. As part of a chastity bondage game, you are locked into the device and teased by your boo until you’re out of your gourd with desire. If this sounds like you, you might want to know where to buy a chastity belt, how does a chastity belt work and how to experiment with forced chastity.

By comparison, folks who are chastity lifestylers often wear their chastity devices on a near-permanent basis. That’s dedication. You are only released by your better half - known as the keyholder - for set periods. If you are a seeking a chastity lifestyle, you see your chastity as the ultimate gift - handing over the control of your sexuality to the person you love.

There are also chastity soloists. People who do solo chastity play reckon they experience more powerful fireworks than when they buff the muff or bash the bishop in a more traditional way. Delaying the Big O is a great way to make your orgasms stronger, and chastity devices make it easier to put off the climax.

Chastity couples claim that chastity play improves their intimacy. Since chastity involves buckets of teasing and climax delay, it leads to a longer sex sesh and exploring erogenous areas.

Types of Chastity Devices

Check out our range of chastity toys - we’ve got something for all players. Common to most of them is at least one padlock and key, so your chastity slave is going nowhere and doing nothing without your tick of approval.