How to Squirt: A Beginner's Guide

In this guide: What is squirting? | How to squirt | Best sex toys for squirting | Squirt-friendly sex positions

Have you ever found yourself wetter than normal after sex and wondered what the heck has happened? If you’re not that sweaty and you don’t think you’ve peed yourself, you may have just experienced a squirting episode!

Finding out how to squirt isn’t always straightforward. It may provoke unexpected emotions, and it might take time, research and practice to work out how to get yourself to the squirting line. So, if you’ve ever wondered whether you can squirt, or you’d like to be able to help your partner get there, we’re here to help.

Only got time for a quickie?

This guide is chokkas-full of tips and tricks to help you get wet n’ wild, but here are a few juicy details:

• Female ejaculation and squirting are related but different things. The consistency and amount of fluid differ.

• You don’t need to orgasm to squirt. They’re completely distinct events, so you might not orgasm at the same time – or at all!

• The fluid released during a squirting sesh isn’t pee. It looks, smells and tastes completely different because it comes from the Skene’s glands, which play a key role in sexual arousal.

• Not everyone can squirt, and that’s ok. The best thing is not put pressure on yourself or your partner if squirting isn’t working for you.

• Experiment with toys. Some people find playing with different types of sex toys useful when learning how to squirt.

• Squirting is thirsty work, so remember to stay hydrated. Be sure to empty your bladder before play to reduce the risk of an accidental wee!

Squirting occurs when clear fluid is released from the urethra during sex. While squirt liquid comes from the same place as your pee and may contain a small amount of urine from the bladder, it shouldn’t be confused with urine or discharge. In fact, it's a special type of fluid produced by the Skene’s glands. Located on either side of the urethra and next to the G-spot, they swell during arousal and release mucus-like secretions that can help with lubrication during sex.

Although the terms squirting and female ejaculation are often used interchangeably, one study found that they are two completely different bodily functions. Female ejaculation typically produces less but thicker fluid, whereas squirting is often described as a trickle or gush of clear liquid.

You could experience squirting before an orgasm, or at the same time as the Big O. But squirting and orgasm are also different functions, so you might not climax at all during the same session where you’ve squirted.

Some people feel very little sensation at all, and only notice they’ve squirted after the fact when they find themselves in a wet patch. The lead-up itself has often been described as almost like needing to pee, whereas others may feel pressure or fullness. On the Lovehoney Forum, user Calie says, “You may not get the need to pee feeling at all or you may miss it if you are caught up in the orgasm or it’s build up.”

Perfecting the art of squirting takes time and practice. While some find it comes naturally, others may take longer to figure out what works for them. While there’s no guaranteed way to make yourself or your partner squirt, these simple steps may help to get the juices flowing.

Create a comfy space

Whether you’re ditching the lights for candles, lighting some incense or putting on your favourite sexy playlist, getting comfy can be key in helping you relax. Set yourself up on the bed, your couch, or take it to the bathroom before firing up the water jets. Things could get a little wet, so have a few towels or a waterproof throw on hand before you play.

Squirting is thirsty business, so be sure to stay hydrated in the lead-up and after your squirting sesh. Just don’t overdo it before getting down to business, or you might just mistake the sensations of squirting for the urge to pee.

Relax and build your arousal

Once you’ve set the vibe, it’s time to start stoking that fire in your loins. Lovehoney Forum user anon12593578 breaks it down: “Have fun trying and relax, often when you concentrate on trying to it won't happen!! Just go with the flow…”

Just like an orgasm, some people find foreplay useful when learning to squirt. So, get yourself in the mood with the help of your trusty vibrator. Or if you’re exploring with your partner, a touch of massage or mutual pleasure could do the trick. If you need a little extra help getting excited, check out our range of female arousal enhancers.

Find your G-spot

While everyone’s anatomy is different, the G-spot usually lies two to three inches from the vaginal opening on the front wall (the same side as your stomach). Try a squatting position, or lying on your back with your knees up and pelvis tilted before lubing up and using your fingers to find your sweet spot.

Many people find a “come hither” gesture best for stimulating their G-spot. But if that’s not your vibe, there are plenty of toys shaped specifically to target your hidden gem. Metal or glass dildos deliver the firm touch that’s often needed to release the falls. Alternatively, G-spot vibrators and thrusting dildos offer added vibrations and rumbly sensations to stimulate your internal sweet spot.

Add clitoral stimulation

For some, internal G-spot stimulation is all they need to squirt. You can also explore clitoral stimulation to help get you going. The clitoris and G-spot are all part of the same interconnected network of super-sensitive nerves, meaning clitoral stimulation can actually stimulate your G-spot externally. A rabbit vibe like the Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl hits both zones at the same time for sensational blended pleasure.

You can tease your clit manually with your fingers, or use a clitoral vibrator to deliver targeted external sensations to help you get the job done.

Focus on the feels

As things start to get hot and steamy, you might feel like you need to pee. So long as you’ve got an empty bladder, this is usually a good sign that you're getting closer to squirting. Lovehoney Forum User The_Little_Ladybird found, “It does feel like I am about to pee, but I am able to just let it go.”

If you’re worried about an accidental wee, you can give your pelvic floor muscles the strength they might need with a Kegel exerciser. This might be exactly what you need to help give you more control of how you hold and release fluid from your urethra.

Include your partner (if you want to)

There are no rules to say whether or not you need to involve your partner in your squirting journey. You might want to give it a whirl yourself first to figure out what works for you before getting them involved.

That said, you may find it a little easier to hit those sweet spots during partnered play if they’re using their fingers, mouth, penis, or a strap-on.

Know when to pause (or stop)

Learning how to squirt should be an enjoyable experience, so if you feel any discomfort or pain, it’s important to hit pause and take a quick breather. You can either get back into it after a short break, or resume your explorations another day.

Alternatively, if you’ve managed to unleash the waterworks once, if not several times, you might find that your bod is done for the time being.

While there’s no single technique that’s guaranteed to make you or your partner squirt, some people find certain sex toys useful for getting them warmed up and ready to rumble. Lovehoney Forum User Tombeepbeep says: “I regularly make the oh squirt, usually with my fingers or a toy…”

If you want to give them a go, here are a few crowd favourites:

• G-Spot vibrators: Gently curved, G-spot vibrators combine powerful vibration patterns and typically feature a bulbous head to deliver the firm pressure that’s often needed to help people squirt.

• Rabbit vibrators: Known for their distinctive bunny ears, some rabbit vibrators offer dual internal and external sensations. With several different vibration patterns and speeds to choose from, you can experiment with various settings until you find a combo that gets your juices flowing.

• Curved dildos: Available in realistic and non-realistic styles, dildos that are gently curved with a wide or tapered head can help deliver more targeted G-spot stimulation. Some curved dildos also have a suction cup base that can be mounted on any smooth surface, like your bathroom tiles for hands-free play.

• Bullet vibrators: The small but mighty bullet vibrator are great if you’re keen to experiment with precise external stimulation. Available in a range of shapes and sizes, bullet vibes can be used to explore different erogenous zones, from your neck to your clit. But don’t be tempted to use a bullet vibrator internally. These babies are exclusively for external use.

Explore our range of sex toys for women and people with vulvas for more options. And don’t forget to clean your sex toys properly before and after you’re done!

Whether it’s a certain angle, pressure, or motion that you’re chasing, some sex positions might make it easier for you to learn how to squirt. Once again, there’s no single ‘best’ position. Instead, the best possie is the one you find most comfortable and enjoyable.