Position of the Week: Stand to Attention

Get even closer with Stand to Attention: this position requires some coordination, but it’s so passionate that the effort is worthwhile.

How?

For this position, both partners stand. The receiving partner faces away from the giving partner, using a wall or other sturdy surface for support. The giving partner stands behind them, gripping the receiver’s waist or wrapping their arms around their chest to draw them in close.

If you’re the receiver, you can help guide your lover’s dildo or penis to enter you from behind. Both partners can adjust angles and pace to find what feels best. If you’re the giver; rock, grind, or thrust to hit your partner’s sweet spots.

Pro-tip: Lube is your friend here! It’ll make things much more comfortable and enjoyable.

Why?

The Stand to Attention is a sensual and incredibly passionate position that’ll bring you and your partner even closer together. The giving partner gets to caress, kiss, and hold the other, building a deep sense of connection.

This position is great for slower, deeper strokes and can allow for rocking motions rather than fast piston-like thrusts, which can mean way heightened sensations for both of you. If you’re not into penetration, the giver can reach around and caress their partner’s nipples and genitals – either with their hands or wand massager – while kissing their neck and ears.

Since you’re facing away, it’s easier to relax and feel what’s happening. There’s no need to worry about eye contact or feeling self-conscious — just pure sensation. And while communication is always key to good sex, this position can help you loosen up and let your body do the talking.

Make it even easier

If balance is an issue, try using a wall or sturdy surface to lean against. The giving partner can also lend a helping hand (literally!) by holding their partner securely around the waist or hips.

If standing for a while isn’t comfy, try having the receiving partner kneel on the bed, still facing away. You can also experiment with different heights — maybe the receiver rests a knee on the bed or a chair to get the angle just right. And if kneeling isn’t ideal, grab some cushions or pillows.

Make it even better

Once you've got the hang of the Stand to Attention, get creative! The standing partner has their hands free to explore, caress, and tease whichever erogenous zones they please.

The giver can also think about wearing a cock ring, which sends delicious vibrations along the shaft of the penis. Since you’re literally pressed together, you’ll both feel the buzz, as well as enjoying the intensity of each other’s reactions. It’s a feedback loop of pleasure.

If you’re the receiver and you’ve got a vulva, clitoral stimulation is key. Unlike some positions, where clitoral stimulation can be awkward or difficult, Stand to Attention frees you both up to play with the receiver’s clit. We’d recommend a toy that combines clitoral suction with vibrations… although you might find this combo makes it a little hard to stay standing!

Finally, if you're into exploring dual stimulation, a vibrating prostate massager or butt plug can be an amazing add-on for the standing partner.

Make it even kinkier

Feeling adventurous? Stand to Attention offers lots of fun opportunities for kinky play. Soft cuffs on the wrists of the receiving partner, paired with commands and sensual domination from the standing partner, can take things to a whole new level of intimacy and intensity.

You could also experiment with blindfolds to kick things up. Here’s how: With the receiving partner supported, ask your partner to close their eyes and then gently position the blindfold, making sure it’s snug but not too tight. You can also whisper something like “Ready?” before covering their eyes. This heightened sensory deprivation can amplify the feeling of vulnerability and trust, making the closeness of the position even more powerful.

Not the position for you?

We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.