How To Buy Sexy Underwear For Men
For years, it's been the way of the world that ladies have had a huge range of different bedroom lingerie and clothing to tease and titillate their lovers, whilst the gents have had to make do with a trusty pair of black boxers or designer briefs. Hardly fair, is it?
But if you (like us) think that it was high time this was changed, why not grab your man some sensual underwear as an extra-special gift? If you don't know where to start, we've come up with our top tips to help you choose the perfect briefs or boxers to keep him feeling sexy, happy, and confident in (and out) of the bedroom.
Why Should I Buy Men’s Lingerie?
There are several reasons that your man could enjoy you adding a little lace or mesh to his boudoir ensemble:
Having a special outfit for the bedroom could boost his sexual confidence, which will make the whole evening even more enjoyable for both of you.
He may have thought about wearing something a little different, but could be too embarrassed to bring it up with you.
Just as lingerie can help women feel powerful and desirable, seducing his lover in a sexy pair of boxers or wearing a revealing thong on underneath his clothes can be a great turn-on for a man.
How Can I Persuade Him to Dress Up?
If you're concerned that your partner may not be up for wearing men's lingerie, the most important thing to do is talk to them about it.
Explain how much you'd like to see them in your chosen underwear, and reassure them about how good they'd look, as their main concern is most likely to be that they might look silly rather than sexy.
You can also offer to return the favour and wear an outfit of their choice to set their mind at ease (which, really, is a winner for you both!).
Don't forget, they may need a little time to come round to the idea, and if they really aren't comfortable, don't force them - it's important that you're both enjoying yourselves, after all.
How Do I Choose?
Step 1. Find Out What He Likes
It's important to know before you start out what your man feels comfortable in. Though you may be slightly pushing the limits of what he's used to, you don't want to take it too far, too soon.
Check his wardrobe and make a note of:
Which size boxers or briefs he wears (S/M/L etc.)
Which waist size his trousers are (34, 36, 38 etc.)
Which styles he tends to wear most (such as tight trunks or looser boxers)
Which colours or patterns he wears most (e.g. plain white, checks, stripes)
By knowing what he already likes, not only will you find it easier to pick a gift, but you're increasing the likelihood of him feeling comfortable enough to wear it.
Step 2. Pick Your Style
When you pick the cut of your sexy male underwear, going for something that you know he's worn before is always a foolproof plan. However, here are some tips on how to choose the best style if you're torn:
Trunks and tight boxers give good support, and suit most body shapes. They're also great for making slender frames look bigger.
Briefs are super-comfortable, fit easily under clothes, and look particularly flattering on men who carry more weight on their legs and bums than on their upper half.
Jockstraps, thongs and G-strings cling to and emphasise the size of your man's package, as well as showing off his butt.
Step 3. Choose the Material
Just like with women's lingerie, men's underwear comes in a wide variety of fabrics. From flirty lace, to super-soft microfibre, to sheer mesh, each type of fabric gives a different look and experience.
If you're into fetish play or your partner prefers a kinkier look, wet look or PVC is an ideal choice.
If you'd rather play it a little safer to begin with but still get the phwoar factor, look for sheer mesh panels or skintight Spandex and Lycra.
Look out for other little details, such as lacing or pop-open panels, that allow your partner to control how much they choose to reveal until they're totally confident.
Step 4. Check The Sizing
Most of our men's underwear is sized by Small, Medium, Large, Extra Large, making it easy to find the right fit, but if your man is between sizes, here are a few tips on getting the best size:
Check the size of his favourite clothes and underwear. If he wears them a lot, it's probably because they're the most comfortable and fit best.
Look at the brand size chart underneath the long description on the item page to see how his waist or chest size measure up. Many brands use slightly different measurements between sizes.
Read the customer reviews to see what people who have already bought the item said about the fit. This can be really helpful if you're torn between two sizes.
Opt for a one size item. Often super-stretchy or with a variety of fastenings, these clothes fit a range of sizes (but not all, so be careful).
1. Best for Mengerie Newbies: LHM Stripe Mesh Boxer Shorts (£12.99)
Sheer enough to seduce, but still leaving a little to the imagination, the alternating mesh and microfibre stripes of these boxers are perfect for men who may be intimidated by the more out-there styles.
With their tailored central pouch, and soft, stretchy material, they're comfortable enough for all-day wear, plus the opaque waistband means they're super-discreet under clothes.
"When my wife saw these - as I bought them as a surprise for her - she really liked the way these fitted my figure and turned her on." - Big ali
2. Best for Roleplay: LHM Tuxedo Thong for Men (£11.99)
Roleplay can be a great way to introduce your man to the idea of sexy bedroom underwear, as it gives you the opportunity to have a little fun with the concept without feeling silly.
Perfect for playing out espionage, waiter, or butler fantasies, or just to add a special touch to those big occasions, this comfy tuxedo thong is a great way to spice up your romping routine.
"His bum looked great. He was surprised that it didn't feel uncomfortable. For something I thought he would put on and take off quite quickly he seemed to be quite happy…" - jr78
3. Best for Wearing All Day: LHM Microfibre & Mesh Boxer Shorts (£12.99)
If you think that your partner would enjoy the thrill of wearing their sexy new undies out and about, then the super-soft and stretchy microfibre of these boxers is perfect.
Tailored darting to the front gives a flattering and supportive pouch to make the most of your partner's member, whilst an opaque and supremely soft microfibre waistband gives a discreet finish.
"Finally men's underwear that's on par with the women's sexy lingerie range. I will be buying more from the LHM range without a doubt." - ldld
4. Best for Lingerie Lovers: Malebasics Men's Fuchsia Lace Boyshorts (£21.99)
For men who like the look and sensations of wearing women's lingerie, these sheer lacy boyshorts in vibrantly sexy pink are sure to please.
Cut in a similar shape to trunks but much shorter in the leg to flaunt your man's tush, these striking pants take the classic women's boyshort shape and adapt it to fit the male physique.
"Love a brand that can finally do lace panties for men in such a bright colour. " - >Fentiger
5. Best for a Touch of Kink: Male Power Jouster Pouch Thong (£16.99)
If you and your partner like to dabble in bondage or power-play, then the sleek wet look fabric and metal studs of this posing thong are a great way to amp up your playtime.
The fabric is stretchy and supportive with a high-shine finish, making it much more comfortable to wear than rubber, leather or PVC.
" She could not keep her hands off. It does show off your package really well. We will be looking for more like it. " - northeast2foru
6. Best for Going All Out: Male Power Scandal Lace Micro Garter Short (£21.99)
For something even more adventurous, try a touch of gender-crossing role play with Male Power's lacy garter shorts.
With a silky mesh pouch and thong back, these revealing shorts feature floral lace straps around the waist and legs to create the look of a suspender belt and stockings.
" They are sooo sexy! The garters round my thighs makes it look as if I'm wearing transparent stockings." - john69
We always want you and your partner to be totally happy with the underwear you choose, so if there are any problems at all with your final selection, don't forget that our no-quibble returns policy gives you a year to return or exchange your gift.
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