Beginner's Guide To Dildos

With a huge variety of colours, shapes and sizes, dildos can be used to stimulate all the right spots - when you know how.

Discover the complete lengths, breadths and depths of dildo-tastic delight with our expert guide on how to get the most from your dildo.

Metal, glass, real-feel, PVC, silicone, plastic, curved, straight, wavy or even moulded from your favourite real-life dong, dildos are ultra-versatile and there’s definitely one for you out there. Choose yourself a winning weiner and check out our best tips and tricks for peak penetrative pleasure.

What is a Dildo

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Dildos can be used by everyone and can be a great toe-dip for those unsure about venturing into the world of sex toys for the first time.

They can provide a more realistic experience than other popular sex toys, like vibrators. A lot of dildos are designed to try and replicate the look and feel of a real penis (even complete with veins and balls).

There’s also plenty of non-realistic looking dildos in a wide range of different materials and sizes. No matter what tickles your fancy, you’ll find a dildo to ramp you right up.

How to use a Dildo

One of the best things about dildos is that there are so many ways to use them! Just as long as you’re using them safely, there’s pretty much no wrong way to get the O when it comes to a dildo.

Use with Lube


No matter how you choose to play with your dildo, using lubricant will help make it easier to enjoy and more satisfying to use.

With dildos available in a vast array of materials, your choice of lubricants is practically unlimited. Just remember that water-based lubricant is a must for silicone, rubber and realistic feel (soft plastic) dildos, while glass or metal dildos work with any and all lubricants.

“This was incredible, and with lots of lube I had the most incredible orgasm as it is nice and filling but not uncomfortable.” - HRSH

Switch up the positions

Make like Ariana Grande and switch up those positions. Whether you’re using a dildo hands-free in a strap-on harness or using it to stroke your sweet spot from a comfy pose, dildos can open up a whole new world of pleasure. They’re not hampered by things like leg cramps and muscle fatigue, so they make great partners for positions you might find difficult to achieve otherwise.

“Following the first time we used it, where I chose to ride my fiancée as it allowed me to control the intensity of our session, we then proceeded to use Mr Pink whenever possible and in every conceivable position.” - ElzBelzBoo2816

In terms of multiple play positions, one of the most versatile types of dildos you can get a hold of is one with a suction cup base.

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Share the fun

Dildos make a wonderful third player in the bedroom with your partner. Not only are they firm and flexible but they even come in double-ended varieties long enough for you both to enjoy at the same time.

“By the smile on her face I knew it felt good and due to the size there was plenty left for me too. It did the job beautifully and it was great to have the same toy inside both of us at the same time!” - Unicorn Thruple

Plus, dildos are a superb non-threatening way to explore double-penetration or threesome fantasies with your partner.

Another utterly unique shareable dildo experience is to clone your partner’s penis using a Clone-A-Willy kit. Each kit contains everything you need to make a lifelike, totally functional dildo that’s moulded directly from your partner’s willy (and they make one for vulvas, too).

Types of dildos

There are a bunch of different types of dildos. This leaves us tickled pink for two reasons. Firstly, there’s a type of dildo to suit everyone. And secondly, it means you can always buy more. Why have one lonely dildo in your collection when you can have two. Or three! Or seventeen!

Some dildos are designed specifically for couples play, such as double dildos and strapless strap-ons, and others are crafted with solo play in mind. You’ll find a wide range of suction cup dildos that can stick to walls and other surfaces for hands free pleasure. Realistic dildos are ideal for those who are searching for similar sensations to a real shlong. Double dildos are fantastic for lesbian couples but can be enjoyed by everyone as well.

Sizes of Dildos


Dildos come in such a wide variety of sizes.

Our smaller beginners dildos offer around 5 inches (12.7cm) of insertable length, whereas our largest and fisting dildos can offer up to 14 inches (35.5cm) of pleasure.

Just like with real peens, dildos also come in heaps of different girths too, ranging from 3.5 inches (8.8cm) to 10 inches (25.5cm).

While the largest dildos can offer a fun challenge to those more experienced fiends, our smaller dildos are great for beginners, those who’ve never used sex toys before or those who are looking to experiment with anal for the first time.

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Where to buy a Dildo

Here at Lovehoney of course! If you’re looking for a great place to start, check out a few of our most popular dildos down below. Explore your way through our options to find something that leaves you hot under the collar just looking at. If you’re still not sure which dildo is the best for you to buy, you can Contact Customer Care, who will be able to help you find the perfect toy. Expert chat and email support is available.

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