When someone says “erogenous zones” to you (and we’re hoping in the right context, not while you’re shopping for eggs), which places do you tend to think of?
Chances are, it’s your bits first, then nipples, or anus, or that one particular spot that your partner found behind your knee once and you’ve been trying to rediscover ever since.
But the truth is, we’re covered in erogenous zones - sensitive areas of the body that can make us feel aroused, or even bring us to orgasm - and finding out which ones work for you can be a whole lot of fun. Not to mention a great way to spend a rainy Sunday.
To discover some of our favourites, and find out how to stimulate them for mind-blowing masturbation, sex and foreplay fun, just keep reading.
When I think about vibrators, I realise that although they're really adaptable, they seem to be commonly marketed towards women.
Even in my personal life, I'd say that the women I know are much more likely to own a vibrator than the men. Vibrators are crowd-favourites for a reason, and I want people of all genders to experience their rumbly goodness.
There are already some amazing vibrators for men, but I also think that a little creativity goes a long way when it comes to our sex toys.
Men, this one's for you.
It's not that I never thought I'd try the Clone-A-Willy Vibrator Moulding Kit, it's more that I just never knew that this erotic DIY project existed.
When I found out that this sex toy meant you could you make a vibrating carbon copy of your lover's penis, my mind was blown. This is what I'd been looking for all these years!
I've always found penetrative toys kind of intimidating and it usually takes me a while to warm up to them. But as soon as I found out about Clone-A-Willy, I was cheering! Forget feeling uncertain about whether a toy was going to feel good or not. I was going to have a vibrating dildo modelled on my most favourite willy in the world.
When I'm not getting him to tie me up and assemble an over-the-door sex swing, I'm asking him to replicate his penis. What a lucky man he is.
What I never learned about the clitoris in sex ed is enough to fill multiple books.
Looking back, it’s no wonder I didn’t have an orgasm until I was 21. Historically, sex education has mainly focused on how we reproduce as human beings and how to avoid becoming a young parent. This may be a big part of why the clitoris has been so overlooked in the classroom.
The clitoris is the only organ in the body with the sole purpose of providing pleasure. That’s it. That’s its only function. So, it’s no surprise that the clitoris hasn’t been covered in sex education classes that are only concerned with the best ways to prevent a pregnancy.
When you’re concentrating teaching a class on the egg and the sperm, the clit doesn’t really enter into it – but should it? The clitoris plays a crucial role in sex and masturbation, so if your high school sex ed classes didn’t leave you any wiser we’ve got six facts ready to kick-start your clitoral education.
From moans and groans to creaky bedsprings, sex brings with it an entire orchestra of weird and wonderful noises.
But when you're sharing that house with others, be it members of the family or housemates who could hear a pin drop, hopping on the good foot and doing the bad thing can seem... trickier.
A house full of people isn't the easiest place to get it on, but before you put a ban on bonking, or throw your favourite vibrator to the back of a drawer, here are some handy tips to help you get your rocks off in incognito mode.
Sex can seem like the goal of intimacy. But what are we actually talking about here? For a lot of people ‘sex’ means penis in vagina, however there is so much more to being erotic with somebody. You have desire, anticipation, foreplay, oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex and, yes, those highly sought-after orgasms. And while an orgasm can be great, it doesn’t need to be our only goal, in fact we actually don’t really need any goals besides feeling pleasure.
Being sexual with someone should mean we are focusing on pleasure. This means, how we can give pleasure to our partner and how we can receive pleasure. The focus should not be on getting the penis inside the vagina as soon as possible and both racing towards an orgasm as fast as we can.
For a lot of people, 'penis in vagina' is not part of their sexual repertoire. And many people need that foreplay, that warming up, that build of pleasure and sensation where mind and body are overwhelmed with arousal. So if you haven't indulged in some serious foreplay in a while, now is the time. Let's remove some stigmas around foreplay and sex.