Every time I come out as pansexual I have received comments like ‘Pfft, that’s not a real thing’, ‘So… you’re bi?’, ‘PANsexual?! Do you like pots too?’ or ‘What, you’re hot for Peter Pan?’.
Trust me, I’ve heard it all.
Even though I did have a huge crush on Jeremy Sumpter as a child and a non-stick frying pan does make my heart flutter, these remarks make me eye-roll so hard that in the moment, I choose to label myself as bisexual instead.
After talking to some other pan-pals, I know my experience is pretty common.
So, I’m here to shine a light on pansexuality, we’ll explore its definition, how it compares to other sexualities and I’ll give a bit of an insight to what it means for me to be pansexual.
For many people, there are few things more mortifying than the idea of someone hearing them masturbate.
While there's no reason to be ashamed of masturbation at all, the social stigma, fear of a certain reputation and many other reasons mean that most people would rather keep their private pleasure just that: private.
University is a time of juxtapositions. A wealth of nightlife and no money to explore it, a world of academic study and no time to embrace it and, for many, a new horizon of sexual possibilities and far too little privacy to comfortably enjoy them.
Statistically, university is one of the most common times for a woman to start experimenting with masturbation and sex toys, but it is also frustratingly often one where privacy is at an all time low due to the paper thin walls and eternal uncertainty about who's in the house.
That’s where this handy guide comes in, to help you maximize your potential you-time while minimizing the need to worry about nosy flatmates asking awkward questions.
In this Head Board article, we’re getting to the – ahem – bottom of the question, “If I’m a man who likes anal play, does that mean I’m gay?”.
Here to offer answers is award-winning journalist and sex educator Alix Fox, co-host of BBC Radio 1’s real-life comedy sex stories show, Unexpected Fluids, and resident X-rated agony aunt on The Modern Mann podcast.
Alix is also a proud Ambassador for young people’s sexual health charity Brook, so when it comes to bums, you know she’s not talking out of her arse.
OK, my Puzzled-About-Posterior-Play Posse, let’s have a conversation about anal stimulation! I’m going to break this question down into easily digestible parts. Starting with…
Adding lube to sexy playtime is one of the simplest ways to bring something new to the bedroom. They improve glide, enhance sensation and can even enable play that's otherwise not possible, such as anal sex or sex in the shower.
But, with so many lubes to choose from, it can be tricky knowing which lube is safe to use alongside which products. For example, did you know that you should never use silicone lube with a silicone sex toy?
Or that water-based lubes won't work in the shower?
In this week's video, Jess and Sammi give you the lowdown on lubes so you know the key differences between them, and can make any play super-slippery with the correct lubricant.