The sight of sex toys shouldn’t leave you quaking in your briefs or quivering in your knickers - at least not in a bad way.
A humongous number of happy Lovehoney customers are in relationships and have actually found sex toys to be a wonderful boost to their bedroom antics. Whether it’s a bullet to share, or a specifically designed couple’s gadget, sex toys should be a sizzling addition to your sexual antics, not a replacement for your partner.
In fact, many toys are specifically designed to pleasure both partners simultaneously.
Here’s a breakdown of the best toys for using with a partner.
Picture the scene: the lights are dimmed, the candles are lit - and someone pulls out the silky satin restraints.
If you and your partner have decided to make your BDSM debut, then congratulations are in order! It’s great that you’ve found someone else who is on your wavelength and is up for some sexploration.
What could kill the mood slightly, however, is if you tie up your lover and then stand there staring awkwardly, while your lover lies there and just stares right back at you (also awkward).
Before you whip the handcuffs out, the best thing to do is plan your scene together. Planning will help clarify what sort of play turns you both on, what activities are off the cards, and what your safe word will be.
But exactly how do you plan sex, and keep it sexy? Here's 7 things to do with your partner (ranked from mildest to wildest) now that you've got them tied up.
Somtimes, sex can be very awkward. It’s unfortunate, but it’s true. When you’re naked and getting it on with your partner, whether it’s your long-term squeeze or a one-night stand, a single wrong line can kill the mood entirely.
Of course, if you’re super comfortable around someone there’s nothing wrong with some jokes and giggles during sex, but if it’s a new partner or you don’t know them particularly well, knowing where the boundaries are isn't always so simple.
So to help you avoid any awkward silences in the place of heavy breathing and contented moans, I’ve put together a list of some of the most cringey, awkward, and uncomfortable things that you should definitely never say in the bedroom.
Got any of your own? Be sure to add them to the comments!
Giving up control isn't always easy to do, but it can lead to lots of fun – especially when it comes to sex.
Discreet, versatile, and super fun to play with, remote control sex toys are one of our favourite inventions aside from Netflix (although, we should probably take a moment to appreciate the creator of Netflix, what a legend).
Opening up a world of sexual opportunity, remote control toys challenge your ability to keep calm and carry on – even with things not at all calm down below.
They're also an easy way to introduce outdoor adventures into your sex life, and explore power play without restraint.
Lovehoney has an unbelievable variety of remote control sex toys on offer, and here are some of the ways you can use them!
While they may not have 12 different types of orgasm to explore, there are still plenty of ways men can turbocharge their orgasm for a mind-blowingly good jizz fest.
Although women might not hesitate to invest in a sex toy to improve their orgasms, men don’t always offer themselves the same courtesy, and many aren’t comfortable sharing tips to enhance their orgasms.
Read on for how to help yourself, or the man in your life, to have incredible, super-charged orgasms with a few tips, tricks and tweaks to their routine.
"My girlfriend's really shy about her body. I love the way she looks, but is there any lingerie I can buy her to help her feel sexier?"
When we asked you to send us your sex questions, tons of you wanted to know how to help your partner feel more confident in their own skin. So we asked body-positive blogger and Instagram sensation,CurvyGirlThin (aka Charli) to give us her finest tips for lingerie to make anyone feel fab.
Feeling sexy is definitely linked to being empowered. If a woman doesn’t feel empowered, then she’s unlikely to feel confident and sexy in her own body.
For me, empowerment definitely starts at the base - and that is lingerie. However, my mood really affects what lingerie is going to make me feel my sexiest.
Read more below to see Charli's top lingerie tips and choices.
Why a Magic Wand?
'Cause they're magic!
As well as being magical, wands are wonderfully versatile and can be used for all sorts of play, from romantic massage right through to kinky fetish fun (and everything in between).
They're a great non-intimidating introduction to bedroom accessories, particularly for couples who'd rather steer clear of anatomical toys, and offer loads of play options without looking like a body part.
Plus, with just a couple of attachments in your midst, a wand can bring the pleasure of several toys, in one neat package.
This allows you to explore a whole world of pleasure, without dedicating your whole wardrobe to sexy products.
(Not that there's anything wrong with that!
*Admires bedside unit spewing with dongs*)
We all know that being naked is pretty great, but what about the getting naked part?
If your undressing style consists of an under-the-covers fumble or you prefer the rip-off-your-clothes-and-go technique, we suggest you try slowing things down a little for a change. And maybe add some music.
Terrified? Stick with us.
The idea of being the centre of attention in the buff is, quite literally, lots of people's idea of a nightmare.
Anyone else have those dreams where you turn up to work/uni/your mother in law's wearing nothing but your knickers?
Ok, so it might be a bit of a challenge, but stripping for your partner can be unbelievably hot.
We've put together a handy guide to help boost your confidence and have your lover's heart pounding.
So, you're the proud owner of a new toy from Lovehoney, and you're probably buzzing with happiness.
Now that you've had some fun, what's next?
We're big believers that there’s always room for improvement when it comes to using sex toys – they're an endless source of fun!
To help you get even more from your toys, we've put together a few tips and tricks, from choosing the right lube to playing with a partner.
Lots of you asked us, what is it that makes a man phenomenal in bed? Luckily, our Head Board sexpert and award-winning relationships blogger, Paul Thomas Bell, is here to offer his take on the number one sex tip for men.
Sex from a male perspective can often be more complicated than it really has to be. It's very easy to overthink sex, to over-analyse you partner's expectations and your own ability (or inability) to perform.
It's important to remember that sex should be enjoyable for all parties. It's one of life's simplest yet greatest pleasures, but still we insist on stressing out about it.
One of the biggest challenges for men is remembering that not all partners like the same thing; of course they don't! With one partner you may be a stud, and with another, you could be the greatest anti-climax the act of sex has ever known.
There is, however, one trick that I firmly believe should work with just about any partner – and it's all about the build-up.