Daylight Savings (when clocks are pushed forward by one hour during the warmer months to make better use of the light during the day) is just around the corner here in Australia for people in New South Wales, Victoria, South Australia, Tasmania, the Australian Capital Territory and Norfolk Island.
It means the sun rises later in the morning and sets later in the evening – great for everyone except those who use the morning for some pre-work turn-ons.
You see, my partner and I work on opposite schedules. I work 9am-5pm and he works 5pm-midnight. So, the only time we get together is about 45 minutes before I leave for work. Most of this time is usually taken up by groggily sipping on our caffeinated beverages of choice, but sometimes we like to throw in a little somethin' sexy.
But, with less light in the mornings comes less time awake, and less time turning each other on.
So, I've compiled a list of things that we can do in lightning speed, and I thought I'd share them with you all.
Firstly, let me get one thing out of the way – if you’ve come here to learn about ‘femidoms’, you’ve got the wrong article. “Femdom” is a BDSM term used to describe a female dominant or 'top' partner.
Femdoms may enjoy having their submissive partner call them “Mistress”, or they may prefer to refer to themselves as “Dominatrix” or “Domme”. They may not call themselves anything at all – the point is that many women take great pleasure in ruling supreme between the sheets.
If you get a kick out of being the lady in charge, maybe it’s time to embrace your inner Domme. Of course, the best thing about exploring any new kink or fetish is that you don’t have to dive straight in the deep end.
There are plenty of X-rated activities you can partake in that range from the saucy and the sensual to the down-right dirty and dominant.
If your inner Femdom is aching to make her debut, don't deny her a minute longer! Use any of the above 10 tips to embrace your dominant nature and you'll be BDSM-ing with the best of them in no time.
Orgasms are absolutely fantastic, there's no doubt about that. But, there might be times where you or your partner cannot or choose not to reach climax.
Sex should be pleasurable and fun, whether you're orgasming or not. It's those sexy, fun feelings that bring us to orgasm, and we wouldn't be orgasming without them.
It's just like that age-old saying – the journey is better than (or even the reason for) the destination. You wouldn't do a hike to a lookout point and ignore the wildlife, plants and waterfall along the way, would you?
Also, I find that removing the sense of having a 'goal' (i.e. orgasming) when engaging in partnered or solo sex can make things much more enjoyable.
That way you'll notice all of the other sexy things happening along the way that you may have overlooked because you were so focused on achieving an orgasm.
Let's explore some other sexy and fun things that don't include orgasms.
Whether you want to discover new ways to connect with each other, or you want to spice up your erotic routine with something a bit different, sex toys can be an exciting way to increase desire and sexual satisfaction between you and your partner.
If you are trying to mix things up, increase your pleasure in the bedroom, or enhance your sexual excitement – introducing a toy (or toys!) could be the answer you've been searching for.
Sure, when you guys first met you stayed up all night; Bumpin' and grindin', sharing your raunchiest desires into the early hours (all while Careless Whisper played softly in the background).
But, when your relationship is old enough to legally buy cigarettes, kids, mortgages and television often take precedent over chatting about your innermost sexual desires.
Long term sexual relationships can often suffer from getting a little formulaic. While you may know each other inside out and have a healthy sex life, if you're holding back on sharing your true sexual desires you could be majorly missing out.
Whether you've just plucked up the courage to share, have lost a little enthusiasm for your usual bedtime romp, or have recently discovered a new sexual curiosity, it's time to start talking about your desires. In this blog we provide some handy tips to get that sex talk flowing.