Have you ever thought about writing your own erotic stories? Or maybe memoirs? Then you're not alone.
Lots of people feel awkward about sharing their writing – understandably so, if you've ever read a comment section anywhere on the internet.
It's scary to put yourself out there. But it can also be a huge turn-on, and ultimately rewarding.
Even if your audience is just yourself and a lover, erotic writing is a great way to explore fantasies. Writing can relieve stress, and when you're doing it for fun, it can be a welcome break from academic assignments.
If you've ever thought about putting pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard as it's now more often known (though it does sound slightly less romantic), here are some small steps to get you started.
Pornography has come a long way over the past few decades. Well, maybe not so much in content, but in terms of accessibility.
The fact is, most of the fantasies we see acted out in porn have existed for hundreds of years, but previously, you had to go to some lengths to see them. Like subscribing to 'specialist' magazines, or braving a seedy-looking sex shop in a back alley.
With the internet age, our desires are at our fingertips.
People who are curious about trying/viewing something other than vanilla sex are able to do so with more ease than they would have, say, thirty years ago.
However, between the mainstream media, search engine algorithms and the influence of major pornography companies, it can be difficult not to become bored with the same ol' studio-filmed heteronormative perfect-bodied images flashing across our screens.
Here are just some things we are tired of seeing in pornography:
Every time I come out as pansexual I have received comments like ‘Pfft, that’s not a real thing’, ‘So… you’re bi?’, ‘PANsexual?! Do you like pots too?’ or ‘What, you’re hot for Peter Pan?’.
Trust me, I’ve heard it all.
Even though I did have a huge crush on Jeremy Sumpter as a child and a non-stick frying pan does make my heart flutter, these remarks make me eye-roll so hard that in the moment, I choose to label myself as bisexual instead.
After talking to some other pan-pals, I know my experience is pretty common.
So, I’m here to shine a light on pansexuality, we’ll explore its definition, how it compares to other sexualities and I’ll give a bit of an insight to what it means for me to be pansexual.