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  1. Everything You Need To Know About Strap-Ons

    The very definition of a couple's plaything, strap-on sex toys are designed to switch up the sexual dynamics in your relationship. They can be used by straight people, gay people, bi people, pansexual people... pretty much anyone!

    In this guide, we'll cover all the need-to-know information you need if you're looking to introduce a strap-on to your playtime, including how to choose them and how to use them.


    Overview


    What's a Strap-On?

    Strap-ons are a great sex toy for both mixed- and same-sex couples. They allow you to penetrate your partner, while keeping your hands free for other fun. Hooray!

    The majority of strap-ons come with a strap-on harness that sits around the wearer's hips to give greater control over the toy during use.

    But how do you choose the right strap-on for you?


    Different types of strap-ons:

    Strap-on harness kits

    These all-in-one bundles contain everything you need to start your experimentation with pegging and penetration play. (And if you've not heard the term 'pegging' before, it's used to refer to the act of a woman using a strap-on to anally penetrate a man).

    Most strap-on harness kits have either a hole or an O-ring that you slot the dildo into, and usually come with at least one dildo to start you off.

    Once you discover the joys of strap-on sex though, you'll be hungry to try dildos in new shapes and sizes - or may be be ready to go bigger.

    Strap-on dildos

    These dildos are compatible with a range of harnesses, allowing you to switch up your strap-on fun. You can also use them without a harness as you would with a standard dildo.

    Vibrating strap-ons

    Strap-on vibrators are like standard strap-on dildos, but they vibrate!

    Hollow strap-ons

    Suitable for using both flaccid and erect, hollow strap-ons ensure you'll always have a strong, long-lasting erection.

     Use them as a penis extension and enjoy new ways of lovemaking, or as an aid to erectile dysfunction, allowing you to continue an intimate physical relationship with your partner.

    Strapless strap-ons

    If you're more experienced, there's also the strapless strap-on to bear in mind. With one of these, you can get a greater sense of closeness as there are no straps to get in the way.

    The strapless strap-on variety of dildos are suitable for someone with a vagina looking to penetrate their partner either vaginally or anally.

    Usually firmer than other types of double-ended toys, they are easier to control and most feature adjustable angles that allow for a good fit for both partners, enabling a variety of positions during wear.

    The smaller shaft, or 'pony' as it is commonly referred to, is worn in the vagina of the penetrating partner, who grips it in place to thrust it into the partner's anus or vagina.

    A big bonus for some strapless strap-ons is the addition of a bullet vibrator, introducing oooh-inducing vibrations into the mix for both partners to enjoy.

    Double penetration strap-ons

    Enjoy double penetration completely hands-free or create the illusion of a third party in the bedroom with a double penetration strap-on.

     Held in place with a stamina-aiding cock ring, our double penetrators add a second shaft into sex sessions so you can fully satisfy your lover with each and every thrust.

    Vac-U-Lock strap-ons

    The incredible Vac-U-Lock system is a range of harnesses and strap-on dildos that allow you to mix and match a huge variety of dildos, butt plugs and other sex toys.

    Unlike most strap-ons which require an O-ring set-up, Vac-U-Lock strap-ons feature a unique plug system which securely holds your attachment in place for penetrative fun. By using a plug instead of an O-ring, Vac-U-Lock harnesses are compatible with all Vac-U-Lock attachments, no matter the size or girth of the attachment you'd like to use.


    Which is the best strap-on?

    Whether you're looking to add a bit of kink to your relationship, or are well-versed in the fun and versatility of strap-on play, Lovehoney has a selection of the most popular, best rated and expertly picked strap-ons to fulfil your every need.

    So strap yourselves in, lube up and dive in to our stellar selection.

    Best for Pegging:

    Lovehoney Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit

    Lovehoney Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 5 Inch Pegging Dildo

    Pegging pleasure awaits with this perfectly proportioned strap-on set. Adjust the strong harness to fit, then indulge your penetration desires with the lusciously smooth silicone dildo, which curves up to gratify your internal hot spots with ease.

    What they say:

    "This strap-on was the perfect size for our first try [pegging] and we both really enjoyed the experience. We found it really easy to use, the silicone is smooth and inserts easily. The straps are very comfortable and easy to adjust to the perfect fit.

    I would definitely recommend this toy to anyone wanting to join in on the pegging experience, it's a great toy to start with."


    Best for Lesbians:

    Lovehoney Double Wow Strapless Strap-On Dildo

    Lovehoney Double Wow Strapless Strap-On Dildo 7 Inch

    Perform your own magic trick and achieve Dynamo-style levitation (without straps!) with the Double Wow Strap-On. Held in place with just your kegel muscles this double ended dildo creates maximum intimacy with minimum fuss for super strap-on sex.

    What they say:

    "We tested the toy recently and it was amazing. The "giver" end is big enough to hold in securely and gives the person some pleasure too. The little nodules which stimulate the clitoris are something else and feel absolutely wonderful. It fit perfectly inside both of us and allowed for that little deeper penetration in certain positions.

    Overall, I'd recommend this as a strap-on for both beginners and those that are more advanced as it is all round superb and would urge people not to be put off by the strapless element! Fantastic toy!"


    Best for Versatility:

    Lifelike Lover Realistic Pleasures Strap-On Kit (4 Piece)

    Lifelike Lover Realistic Pleasures Strap-On Dildo Kit (4 Piece)

    Encompassing 3 different dildos and O-rings from our Lifelike Lover collection, this 4-piece kit gives you impressive, high-quality cocks at an incredible discounted price of 35% off RRP. The complete package for your super satisfying bedroom playtimes.

    What they say:

    "This kit masterfully brings together the best dildos of the Lifelike range and it came a step further making it the ideal kit that every couple needs on their nightstand to fulfil all their fantasies. All the dildos are made of high-quality PVC that really feel lifelike. Not too flexible, not too firm, just perfect.

    This is a perfect kit to enjoy as a couple: the harness provides that versatility that makes it an indispensable kit. We have both enjoyed the best vaginal and anal sex with toys that we have ever had."


    Best Kit:

    Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On Kit

    Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 7 Inch G-Spot Dildo

    Strap-on adventures beckon with our advanced harness and dildo set. Fully adjustable straps give the wearer a tailored fit and the 7 inch dildo seeks out G-spots or P-spots for fulfilling penetration play.

    What they say:

    "The harness is comfy and easy to put on and adjust. There's loads of room for adjustment in it which is great as my fiancée and I are different sizes. It doesn't make you feel silly when you're wearing it, mostly the opposite!

    It also has a slot for a bullet vibrator (which we bought with this kit) and it feels amazing! It also comes with different rings to hold other dildos. We've had this for a while now and it's still holding up fantastically!"


    Best for First-Timers:

    BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit

    BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit with 2 Dildos

    The adventure begins here. Whether it's pegging play or strap-on sex, this set will set you up for a great first-time experience. A sleek, stylish and comfortable harness holds your choice of 2 dildos for differing sensations so you can mix it up.

    What they say:

    "This is a great starter kit if you're thinking of trying pegging and don't want to break the bank. The harness was comfortable and versatile enough to allow us to use another dildo we had that was a midpoint in size between the two supplied.

    We were both really impressed with the quality and I'm sure it will bring us hours of pleasure."


    Best for Comfort:

    Broad City Pegasus Strap-On Kit

    Broad City Pegasus Pegging Kit

    The Pegasus Kit is some high class sh*t. Pull on the hot briefs, slot in the luscious, curved 7 inch dildo and turn into a rampant, pegging she-stallion, all ready to pleasure your eager lover's holes. There's even a bullet vibe for adding buzzy thrills.

    What they say:

    "First of all I love how the briefs fit. They're slightly high-waisted and I promise you will make your butt look amazing. I love the bullet vibe it comes with: It's surprisingly powerful. It also comes with two sets of batteries! So far I have only used this with my boyfriend, so I used the bullet vibe in the pocket of the undies. It can also be put in the base of the dildo. Hello, vibrating strap-on!

    The dildo is really smooth. I thought it might be too big to use with my partner, but he loved it. It was our first time pegging and I highly recommend this toy!"


    Best for Overcoming Erectile Dysfunction:

    Lovehoney Perfect Partner Unisex Hollow Vibrating Strap-On

    Lovehoney Perfect Partner Unisex Hollow 10 Function Vibrating Strap-On 8 Inch

    Like a Tabasco-soaked pillowcase, the Perfect Partner's a saucy way to bring extra spice into the bedroom. The 8 inch unisex vibrating dong is perfectly proportioned for advanced strap-on penetration, with a wired controller accessible for either partner.

    What they say:

    "I bought this product as I suffer from erectile dysfunction and I missed the closeness with my wife. After looking at the different hollow strap-ons I chose this one as I wanted it to be bigger than me (when it worked) as a treat for the wife...

    It is used regularly now and it's great for me as the vibrations feel good and to be in the position of being intimate again is fantastic. The wife loves the feeling of being full and stretched out. Highly recommended."


    Choosing a dildo that fits your harness

    The girth of the dildo that you want to use should be measured around the thickest part of the shaft. But O-rings are measured in diameter, rather than circumference, so you'll need to do a little bit of maths to ensure the best fit.

    It's really easy, though - just open your phone calculator and divide the girth of your dildo by pi (that pesky number from high school geometry) to find the size of the O-ring that'll best fit your dildo.


    How to put a dildo in your harness

    Take our word for it, it's easiest to get your dildo in place before you put your harness on! If your harness has an interchangeable O-ring, make sure the O-ring is attached to the harness before you start.

    If your dildo is long and smooth with a flat, flared base like the Lovehoney 7 Inch Curved Silicone Dildo, you can just slip it into the O-ring.

    If your dildo is large, has a big kink in it or has testicles like the Lovehoney Lifelike Lover Realistic Dildo 6 Inch, you’ll need to approach it from the other end. Gently pinch the flared base and work it through the O-ring.

    Either way, a little water-based lubricant can help ease the dildo through the O-ring.

    To help you choose the best strap-on, it's important to understand how a harness is put together.

    What is a strap on?

    A strap-on harness is made up of three main parts:

    1. Harness

    The strap-on harness itself, which usually has a padded front section and a series of adjustable straps that you step into and then adjust at the waist and/or the legs.

    2. O-ring

    Either a fixed hole to put dildos through, or a flexible ring that attaches to the harness.

    3. Dildo

    A dildo that fits the hole or O-ring (a harness usually comes with at least one dildo to get you started).


    Compatible Strap-On Harnesses and O-Ring Sizes

    1.25 Inch O-ring

      • Lovehoney Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Kit with 5 Inch Dildo

      • Sportsheets Newcomers Unisex Strap-On Starter Kit 5 Inch


    1.5 Inch O-ring

      • Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 3 Realistic Dildos

      • Tantus Beginner's Unisex Vibrating Strap-On Harness Kit (6 Piece)


    1.75 Inch O-ring

      • Fetish Fantasy Unisex Vibrating Strap-On 6 Inch Dildo Set

      • Red Rider Unisex G-Spot Strap-On Harness Kit 7.5 Inch


    2 Inch O-ring

      • Sportsheets Sedeux Divine Fully Adjustable Extra Comfort Harness

      • Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 7 Inch G-Spot Dildo


    Now you have the perfect strap-on, so how do you use it?

    You'll find that the best way to get the most from your new strap on is to experiment with speed, depth, and position, but there are some key things to remember that will make your strap-on sex easier and more comfortable for everyone involved.

    1. Use lube. Whether you're penetrating a vagina or an anus, a good lubricant will make everything much smoother and more comfortable for everyone. And if you're dabbling in anal plan, it's extra-important! Remember, though, if your dildo is made of silicone, don't use a silicone lube - go for water-based instead.

    2. Take it slowly. It's important that both of you take the time before hand to 'warm up' and relax into your play, particularly for anal penetration, so take your time, experiment with fingers and smaller toys first, and only move onto penetration when you feel ready.

    3. Communicate with each other all the way through play. Remember, the wearer won't be able to feel their new appendage, so if you're receiving, you'll have to tell or show them what feels good and what doesn't. If you're the giver, be sure to listen not only to your partner's words, but their reactions, and let them guide the depth and speed of penetration.

    4. Find a position that is most comfortable for both of you, and puts the receiver in control. Some popular favourites are them-on-top, doggy style, and spooning.

    5. Agree a safe word. This is a word or phrase that, once said, ceases play immediately, and is vital for safety and peace of mind during play.


    Customer tips for great strap-on sex

    "Keeping yourself clean up there is always a first, it's probably the most off-putting thing if you're new to the experience and unsure.." - DraeneiShaman

    "Don't forget that you can use cock sleeves and extensions to give extra length and girth to your dildos." - Gyrator53

    "Although we do not do pegging in a femdom context, empowerment and domination / role reversal can be great psychological enhancements." - SSLH

    "To get a strapless strap on to stay in place you need to do your Kegels. A strong pelvic floor will allow you to squeeze around the toy and keep it in place. In the meantime... I'd suggest looking into an underwear-style harness for some extra support." - NatandTom

    "It is the ultimate form of trust for a couple to engage in having sex with a strap on." - wee_bear


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